5 ways to appear socially smarter over the holidays

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5 ways to appear socially smarter over the holidays

I keep getting requests to re-publish this Boost at this time of the year. So, here we go again.

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A while back I appeared on The Today Show on NBC and was asked how can you appear smarter, socially when you walk into a room full of of strangers. Here’s what I said:

1.Wear great clothes – more people will take you seriously (don’t over do it – don’t be better than anyone else)

2.Head for the middle (popular people always go to the middle of the room in restaurants, parties classrooms etc.),

3.Move more slowly than usual. People who move fractionally more slowly than others tend to get noticed and come across as confident and sexy. Get into the habit so it becomes natural: otherwise don’t bother.

4.The three-second rule. Notice someone and within three seconds go over and say something. Do this several times.

5.Ask “Talk-show” question. The best way to start a conversation is with a statement followed by an open question. “I hear Seattle’s a fantastic place. If I only had 3 hours what should I see?” Remember to give feedback.

Watch the clip on the Today Show


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Nicholas Boothman has been called “one of the leading experts in face-to-face communication in the world” by The New York Times. He has taught his revolutionary techniques of “Risk and Rapport by Design” to thousands of corporations, colleges and universities around the world including the Harvard, and London Business schools. His books, How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less and How to Connect in Business in 90 Seconds or Less have been translated into more than 30 languages.The New York Times calls him “the new Dale Carnegie,” the Economist Magazine calls him “truly inspirational,” and Good Morning America says, “His book is my bible!” Add me to your G+