Nobody wants to be lonely.

Reading Time: 90 Seconds. Why is having someone special so important to us human beings? Not just for companionship, for safety, or for convenience, but because we have a need to express ourselves emotionally and intellectually, we all need someone we can trust to...

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TEENS under pressure

Teens today are expected to get top grades in high school and do everything they can to get into a great college so they can have a successful career…and parents are supposed to help get them there. With these sky-high expectations, failure is not an option. Teens are...

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Work, Luck and Magic

 A Simple Risk/Reward Calculator READING TIME: 30 Seconds We are pre-conditioned to avoid risks even though we deal with them on a daily basis. As a result, we turn away from opportunities to create the jobs we dream of, build the lives we long for, and make the moves...

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I Tap Dance to Work

When Bill Gates, the richest man in the US asked Warren Buffett, the second richest man in the US “How do you define success?” he replied, “I tap dance to work.” That’s StorySpeak. Warren Buffett used the happy tone of old Hollywood song and dance movies where the...

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The Rewards of Introducing People

READING TIME: 100 Seconds Introductions are an important part of business. Learn to handle them graciously, and you display the hallmark of a polished business professional. Introducing Others If you introduce your boss to a friendly media contact, or a client to...

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What’s Wrong with Mr. Perfect?

An editor at Esquire magazine asked me why a certain reader’s profile wasn’t getting the desired results. On the surface this 39-year-old, good-looking guy with a great life/job/future seemed like Mr. Perfect. I gathered eight women aged 23 to 35 (his desired range)...

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Nobody wants to be lonely. Daisy’s story.

READING TIME: 60 SECONDS I’ll never forget the first words Daisy spoke when she introduced herself at one of my workshops several years ago: “I’m so used to jerks I can’t even recognize the nice guys anymore.” Ever since childhood, Daisy explained, she had been...

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Do one thing well.

Success really is that simple. Find your unique gift and do it repeatedly. When you’re really good at that one thing, people will want to pay you for it, or to teach them how to do it. You can find your unique gift in part 2 of The Irresistible Power of...

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What is StorySpeak?

When Warren Buffett, the second richest man in the US and holder of the unofficial title “America’s Greatest Storyteller” was asked, “Do you enjoy your work?”  He replied, “I tap-dance to work.”  That’s StorySpeak. He credits his ability to create short stories and...

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The irresistible benefits of StorySpeak

READING TIME: 4 MINUTES StorySpeak invigorates ideas, stimulates cooperation, sways attitudes and opinions and arouses growth. In Education… Ask any high school student who his or her favorite teacher is and then ask why. Chances are the answer will be, “Because she...

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Party your Way to the Top

READING TIME 90 SECONDS On March 16th, 2008 Jussi Karppinen closed his office door in downtown Helsinki, sat down at his desk and Googled “borrow money.” On the other side of the door his staff of twenty-five realtors plodded about their business convinced any day...

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Nobody wants to be lonely.

READING TIME 70 SECONDS Why is having someone special so important to us human beings? Not just for companionship, for safety, or for convenience, but because we have a need to express ourselves emotionally and intellectually, we all need someone we can trust to talk...

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5 Ways to Manage Constant Complainers

Reading time: 90 Seconds 1.    Interrupt 2.    Investigate 3.    Validate 4.    Motivate 5.    Delegate It can be really frustrating having to deal with people who are always complaining. Of course, you have the usual four options for dealing with difficult people:...

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Leadership from Beneath

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS - On the surface Abigail is an everyday woman. Beneath the surface she is an assertive leader. An assertive leader’s language may be artfully vague and her body language gentle, but never doubt that she is always focused on what she...

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Connect Like You Give a Damn

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS. I care passionately about human potential - and it shows. I give a damn about my books, my readers and my corporate speaking clients – and it shows. 80 percent of all my speaking engagements are word of mouth and repeat business, 9 of them in...

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Keynote Speaker – The Different Types!

Once upon a time, a keynote speaker was a smartly dressed person in a suit who stepped up onto the stage at the beginning of an event or convention or after a dinner. The job of the chosen keynote speaker was make a strong emotional and rational connection with the...

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Motivational Speaker vs. Inspirational Speaker

“Why do you think there are so many motivational speakers around?" Could it be that hiring a motivational speaker doesn't work? Oh sure, the message a motivational speaker delivers works for a day or two, or maybe even a few weeks but, sooner or later, the happy...

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There’s No Such Thing as Shy

READING TIME: 80 SECONDS: I am consistently asked, "but what if I'm shy by nature?" Here's the good news. Nobody was born shy - it's not a human attribute. So-called shy people were more than likely born "Cautious" or Reserved." These are excellent human attributes. I...

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Does Public Speaking Turn Your World Upside Down?

READING TIME: 100 SECONDS. A lot of people are afraid of public speaking, so much so that fear of public speaking outranks fear of death. And according to a recent article, the only greater fears than public speaking are acrophobia (fear of heights) and ophidiophobia...

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Nothing beats face-to-face

Sure we're in the electronic age but nothing beats the impact, speed and results of a face-to-face encounter. When more than 90% of your communication comes from non-verbal signals nothing beats the personal touch. Here are my top ten reasons why face-to-face beats...

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It Takes Crazy Courage to Make Great Things Happen

Researchers out of the University of British Columbia asked the question, “What makes extreme athletes take risks?” It’s a good question, especially in light of watching the Winter Olympics in Sochi, Russia. Why do people do crazy things? According to their research,...

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Humbility – the winning combo

Reading time: 150 seconds. Ever wonder what's the best way to open people up and make them feel good? Try a little "Humbility" in your conversations. Humbility is simply a big ego cloaked in a slightly bigger humility. You can use Humbility to cement the foundations...

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Easy Public Speaking

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS. It’s always puzzled me why public speaking is higher on America's list of fears than death or the economy.  What's the big deal? The catch-22 of public speaking is that the more you do it the easier it becomes. The problem is that most of us...

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Flirting your way to the top!

Reading time: 90 seconds + 30 Ever wonder why some people get promoted even though they don't deserve it? Success doesn't just depend on how well you do your job, it depends on how people feel about you. And plenty of people know how to flirt their way to the top. I'm...

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The Power of Because

READING TIME: 110 SECONDS. Telling people the reason why you are doing something has a major influence on how they react to you because, more often than not, people willingly comply with requests when given reasons why they should. Ellen Langer, a social psychologist...

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Snap judgments.

Reading time: 90 seconds. Try this at a function, a trade show, or in the grocery store line—somewhere you encounter strangers you can approach. Pick out a person you think has some negative aspects. Ask them where something is—the rest room or the deli—and check out...

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You are me and we are all together

Reading time: 45 seconds. Just take a look at the person sitting next to you, or in front of you - or look at anybody. The great truth is that person is just you, going through a different set of experiences since the day they were born - and doing their best to get...

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What’s your “Big Idea”?

Reading Time: 90 Seconds - Smart companies recognize the value of tapping into their employees’ values, of making their work meaningful. One of the ways they do this is by creating a mission statement. Some go even further and distill their mission statements down to...

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Pitching for Profit

  Reading time: 90 seconds. "Every person who got a deal on Dragon's Den, without exception, was able to articulate their business idea in 90 seconds or less." Kevin O'Leary, Dragons Den on CBC, Shark Tank on ABC. To illustrate what Kevin means here's an excerpt from...

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Get Social

Reading time: 70 seconds - The  best way  to begin  to meet new  people is through the  people you  already  know—your friends,  family, and  colleagues. I realize this is not earth-shattering knowledge, but sometimes the obvious bears repeating. Starting close to...

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Changing minds with body language

Reading time: 85 Seconds - Sometimes getting people to move from one emotional state to an entirely different one can be difficult. For example, if you intend to move someone from indifference (“I’m busy; I’ve got a lot of other things on my mind; can’t this wait?”)...

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Really Useful Attitudes

READING TIME: 60 SECONDS - There are three really useful attitudes that great communicators have in common: enthusiasm, curiosity, and HUMBILITY. In the right combination, these three attitudes create an irresistible presence. Be enthusiastic. Enthusiasm is hypnotic,...

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The Dreaded Question

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS- “So. Why should we hire you?” You grimace as your shoulders slump and the wind goes out of your sails. “Well,” your stomach sinks as you answer. “I have a number of accomplishments I'd like to tell you about, but I want to make the best use...

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Celebrity Service

Reading time: 55 seconds - A couple of years ago I spoke to 400 financial advisers on a one week cruise around the Caribbean. The service aboard the Celebrity Millennium was exceptional (there are ways to tell if it’s for real). By chance I learned that the head of...

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Let’s say you want to date a hog farmer.

Reading time: 150 seconds Sarah Edwards, 26, grew up on an Ohio horse farm surrounded by cornfields. She met her husband, Grant Edwards, 27, on FarmersOnly.com, when she was living in Columbus and tired of dating city boys who didn't understand her. A former boyfriend...

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What’s in a username?

Reading time: 120 Seconds How about love at first “site.” Janice, a divorced mother of three, was lonely. “I just wanted some intelligent conversation,” she confided. “I knew nothing about Internet dating.” At her 17 year-old daughter’s urging, Janice signed up for a...

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The art of flirting

Reading time: 8 Minutes Flirting is more than just fun - it’s fundamental. We are made for love: our entire survival as a species depends on it. If we stopped flirting, connecting and reproducing with each other we’d soon disappear. So, while nature has endowed us...

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8.2 seconds to fall in love

Reading time: 70 Seconds London - The Daily Telegraph - March 25/09 The time needed for a man to fall in love at first sight is 8.2 seconds, scientists claim. The longer a man's gaze rests on a woman when they meet for the first time, the more interested he is. If it...

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A gift that makes sense

Reading time: 50 seconds. Is there a way to figure out what someone will love as a gift? Imagine being able to know which sense somebody relies on most. When you find out, you can appeal to that sense above all others. The other person won't realize why, but they'll...

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How to succeed without trying.

Reading time: 90 seconds. Try this: place a pen in the extended palm of one hand. Now, with your other hand try to pick it up. If you picked it up, put it back down and try again. I said “Try to pick it up,” I didn’t say “Pick it up.” If you actually hovered over the...

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Perfectionism

Reading time: 90 seconds. What do you say to the student with a 96% average who thinks she’s a failure because she doesn’t look perfect? Or the marketing manager agonizing over a presentation that has to be perfect before he meets with the client. Or the woman who...

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Future-shifting

Reading time: 45 seconds. Whether you're motivating a team, convincing a client, or arguing with your family: if you want to win them over, shift to the future tense. Praise and blame are delivered in the past tense - “You didn’t do this or that!” Values take place in...

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Overcoming hesitation

Reading time: 180 Seconds The three-second rule The longer you put something off, the harder it is to do it. Did you ever miss out on an opportunity because you were too slow off the mark? Or talk yourself out of doing something and then regret it later? Have you ever...

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Matched Opposites

Who will complete you? No matter what  you might  have  read or heard elsewhere, the truth is that exciting, loving,  lasting relationships are an artful  blend of  “like attracts like,” so  you  actually like,  respect, and  can  put up  with  each other; and  just...

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Real romance

Where would real love be without stories? Just look over your shoulder at the past. What do you see? Not a world of atoms and molecules but a world of stories. From ten thousand years ago to today. Just stories! Stories of adventures, conquests and love. Stories are...

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The girl next door?

Reading time: 70 seconds Peter Backus, a teaching fellow of economics at the University of Warwick, published his Why I Don't Have A Girlfriend theses after spending three years without a partner. The math wiz used the Drake Equation, a formula used by scientists to...

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The Phone Zone

Reading time: 90seconds + 30 When you’re on the phone, you may have a great connection, but you have to be sure that you’re making a great connection. There’s no body language for you to read. Your only clues to what your conversational partner is thinking or feeling...

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Take them with you.

Reading time: 90 seconds. It’s staggering how many people attend business parties at this time of year and forget to take their business cards. I attended a launch for a book on leadership last week. Eighteen people asked me for my card. When I asked for their card in...

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Find Your Matched Opposite and Find True, Lasting Love

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS “We are each of us angels with only one wing; and we can only fly by embracing one another.” —Luciano de Crescenzo As comfortable and tempting as it might feel to be attracted to someone who is just like you (after all, like attracts like), or as stirring and romantic as it might feel to be...

If You’re Going to Make Assumptions – Assume the Best

READING TIME: 120 SECONDS - As I write this Boost, I assume I like you, the reader. I assume I need you; I assume you need me. And what’s more, I assume I’m right. This is what gives me the confidence to keep on writing. Assumptions at their best are great for connecting, learning and sharing, but at their worst they...

Leadership from Beneath

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS - On the surface Abigail is an everyday woman. Beneath the surface she is an assertive leader. An assertive leader’s language may be artfully vague and her body language gentle, but never doubt that she is always focused on what she wants. Even though she may lead you all over the place, she...

Do Companies Give a Damn About Clients?

READING TIME: 110 SECONDS - Giving a Damn is The New Benchmark When you give a damn, you give energy – good quality energy. When you don't you zap energy. My butcher, hardware store and car dealership are all 20 minutes farther away than their competition, but they really give a damn about their staff, their...

Your Message Goes Where Your Voice Goes…

READING TIME: 20 SECONDS. ... and your voice goes where your eyes send it. Eye contact engenders trust. Smiling makes you appear happy and confident. Say “great” to yourself three times to get in the mood....

7 Ways to Become a Temporary Extrovert

READING TIME: 50 SECONDS We live in a world where millions of introverts are forced to masquerade as extroverts just to make a living: and it doesn't always come easy. Here are seven simple tips for becoming a temporary extrovert. greet people frequently, notice the color of their eyes, become a temporary talk-show...

Five Steps to a Successful Transition from Employee to Solopreneur

READING TIME: 80 SECONDS When people, purpose, projects and passion come together,  fear and doubt go out the window, potential and confidence go through the roof, and profits pile up at the door. So,  Ask yourself what am I prepared to risk to shake things up? Get fresh by trying new things, meeting new people,...

Connect with Someone New Today – in Person

READING TIME: 80 SECONDS Connecting with other people brings infinite rewards. And whether it’s landing the job, winning the promotion, gaining the sale, charming a new partner, electrifying your audience or passing inspection by future in-laws, if people like you, the welcome mat is out and a connection is yours for...

If You Risk Nothing You Risk Everything

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS As a means to an end risks can quantum leap you towards your goals and dreams and jump you out of your daily drudge. As an end in themselves they are often no more than gambling with fate. We are pre-conditioned to avoid risks even though we deal with them on a daily basis. As a result, we...

There’s No Such Thing as Shy

READING TIME: 80 SECONDS: I am consistently asked, "but what if I'm shy by nature?" Here's the good news. Nobody was born shy - it's not a human attribute. So-called shy people were more than likely born "Cautious" or Reserved." These are excellent human attributes. I want my bank manager, my accountant and the pilot...

Does Public Speaking Turn Your World Upside Down?

READING TIME: 100 SECONDS. A lot of people are afraid of public speaking, so much so that fear of public speaking outranks fear of death. And according to a recent article, the only greater fears than public speaking are acrophobia (fear of heights) and ophidiophobia (fear of snakes). For the most part, it’s pretty...

The Value of Personal Information When Negotiating

READING TIME: 50 SECONDS. Never underestimate the value of personal information and common ground when negotiating online, on the phone or face-to-face. In a series of studies carried out between several groups of MBA students from well-known business schools, half were told “time is money, get straight down to...

Easy Public Speaking

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS. It’s always puzzled me why public speaking is higher on America's list of fears than death or the economy.  What's the big deal? The catch-22 of public speaking is that the more you do it the easier it becomes. The problem is that most of us don’t have much chance to gain that experience....

8 Good Reasons to Make Small Talk

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS. WHAT is small talk? On the surface small talk is casual chitchat about nothing in particular. WHAT is the purpose of small talk? In spite of seeming to have little useful purpose, small talk is a bonding ritual and a strategy for quickly building trust, finding common ground, sensing energy...

Float Like a Butterfly: Sting Like a Bee

READING TIME: 180 SECONDS. Want some inspiration? Listen to Dylan (like a rolling stone), Jagger (I'm a king bee), Paul Simon (a bridge over troubled water) or your  favourite band. Virtually every song written is full of i-kolas. And what about the greatest of them all?  In 1964 Muhammad Ali (then Cassius Clay)...

The Power of Because

READING TIME: 110 SECONDS. Telling people the reason why you are doing something has a major influence on how they react to you because, more often than not, people willingly comply with requests when given reasons why they should. Ellen Langer, a social psychologist at Harvard University, demonstrated that people...

Mindset Trumps Skillset – Big Time

READING TIME: 70 SECONDS - What does it take to get, and keep, the job you want? Ninety-six percent of employers argue it's not just about having the right skills for the position - it's all about the right mindset. And now there’s statistical proof. For 20 years I’ve been trumpeting the fact that “Really Useful...

7 Tips for Instant Cooperation

READING TIME:70 SECONDS - If you want instant cooperation always use the word “because” (“have you thought about talking to/incorporating this because……”) Automatic response is based on reason, or at least the appearance of reason. Adjust your attitude to fit the situation before you approach someone, or they...

Your Zip Code Is More Influential Than Your Genetic Code

READING TIME: 80 SECONDS - A new study by The Lancet, the world’s leading medical journal, finds that during the reign of Michael Bloomberg, New Yorkers tacked an extra 10 years on to their life expectancy when compared to the rest of the nation. That means the average American life expectancy of 78 years is rising...

There’s No Such Thing as Rejection: There is Only Selection

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS - As meet new people there’s one thing that can make a big difference for the worse - if you let it -  it's the way you handle rejection. I had more than my share of rejection when I was growing up and I learned the hard way that there are essentially three things you can do with rejection:...

No Substitute for The Real Thing

READING TIME: 60 SECONDS - When we bond face-to-face, the “seeking” emotions trigger the release of a feel-good chemical inside us called dopamine: and we feel energy and pleasure. If we like and trust the person, the calming and “satisfaction” rewards of oxytocin and serotonin are triggered to balance the highly...

Flash a Smile, Cast a Glance. Linger Longer

READING TIME: 70 SECONDS - Giving a stranger a small smile or even just making eye contact as you pass can have a huge impact on their feelings and their health. Researchers at Perdue University found that even the smallest amount of eye contact,  or a smile,  or both, can make people feel connected to others. Being...

5 Ways to Appear Socially Smarter Over the Holidays

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS - A while back I appeared on The Today Show on NBC and was asked how can you appear smarter, socially when you walk into a room full of of strangers. Here's what I said: 1.Wear great clothes - more people will take you seriously (don't over do it - don't be better than anyone else) 2.Head for...

The Quickest Way to Blast a Hole in a Relationship

READING TIME: 70 SECONDS - The quickest way to blast a hole  in a  relationship (especially  if it turns  out you  aren’t  matched opposites) and to bring out the worst in your partner is to trample on his or her key feelings. These feelings drive their behavior and sense of self, and over time, damaging them can...

Really Useful Attitudes

READING TIME: 60 SECONDS - There are three really useful attitudes that great communicators have in common: enthusiasm, curiosity, and HUMBILITY. In the right combination, these three attitudes create an irresistible presence. Be enthusiastic. Enthusiasm is hypnotic, magnetic, unstoppable. You can’t buy it—you can...

The Dreaded Question

READING TIME: 90 SECONDS- “So. Why should we hire you?” You grimace as your shoulders slump and the wind goes out of your sails. “Well,” your stomach sinks as you answer. “I have a number of accomplishments I'd like to tell you about, but I want to make the best use of our time together. To help me do, that, could...

3 Steps to Create Your Image

READING TIME: 25 SECONDS - Think about your  appearance  and  the clothes you wear; then think about the image and attitude you’d like to project. Ask yourself What aspect of  my personality do I want to emphasize? What do I want my appearance to communicate to others? What changes must I make to achieve this? So,...

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