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Falling in love is easy.
Researcher Arthur Aron found this out in a series of experiments at the University of California. A man and a woman who had never met were put in a room together for 90 minutes and instructed to exchange intimate information, such as their most embarrassing moment and how they would feel if they lost a parent. Every so often a researcher would come in and tell them to express what they were beginning to like about each other. They were also told to gaze into each other’s eyes for about two minutes without talking. At the end they left through separate doors. Many of the couples confessed to feeling deeply attracted and close to the other person: indeed, the very first pair of subjects married shortly after and invited Dr. Aron and his colleagues to the wedding.
With the right person, specific body language, and taking turns to disclose certain intimate things about yourselves, you can bring about strong feelings of love and intimacy. Dr. Aron affirmed the expectation that the person was going to like them had a huge effect. “If you ask people about their experience of falling in love, over 90 percent will say that a major factor was discovering that the other person liked them.”