Your social health?

Your social health?

Reading time: 90 seconds. Your "social health" is your ability to make human connections. Your "social capital" is your ability to hang on to them. An investment planner will advise you to diversify your financial capital to maintain your financial health. A social...

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There is no rejection, only selection

Reading time: 4 Minutes One of the main reasons people are uncomfortable with dating and reaching out socially is the fear of rejection, but it’s a mistake to look at it this way. As you search for your matched opposite, you are going to spend a fair bit of time...

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3 Steps to Create Your Image

READING TIME: 25 SECONDS - Think about your  appearance  and  the clothes you wear; then think about the image and attitude you’d like to project. Ask yourself What aspect of  my personality do I want to emphasize? What do I want my appearance to communicate to...

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A gift that makes sense

Reading time: 50 seconds. Is there a way to figure out what someone will love as a gift? Imagine being able to know which sense somebody relies on most. When you find out, you can appeal to that sense above all others. The other person won't realize why, but they'll...

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Falling in love is easy

Reading time: 75 seconds Falling in love is easy. Staying in love is a whole different story. We don’t actually fall in love with other people; we fall in love with the feelings we get when we are with them. We turn those feelings into words and suddenly our hearts...

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Can you really fall in love in 90 minutes or less?

Reading time: 55 Seconds Falling in love is easy. Researcher Arthur Aron found this out in a series of experiments at the University of California. A man and a woman who had never met were put in a room together for 90 minutes and instructed to exchange intimate...

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4 rules for a romantic date

Reading time: 50 seconds A box of chocolates, a bunch of flowers and dinner at a fancy restaurant are NOT romantic. They're very nice but you'll forget them in a week or so. Romantic means memorable and that means, "story-worthy." We don’t fall in love with other...

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How to succeed without trying.

Reading time: 90 seconds. Try this: place a pen in the extended palm of one hand. Now, with your other hand try to pick it up. If you picked it up, put it back down and try again. I said “Try to pick it up,” I didn’t say “Pick it up.” If you actually hovered over the...

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Perfectionism

Reading time: 90 seconds. What do you say to the student with a 96% average who thinks she’s a failure because she doesn’t look perfect? Or the marketing manager agonizing over a presentation that has to be perfect before he meets with the client. Or the woman who...

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Future-shifting

Reading time: 45 seconds. Whether you're motivating a team, convincing a client, or arguing with your family: if you want to win them over, shift to the future tense. Praise and blame are delivered in the past tense - “You didn’t do this or that!” Values take place in...

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Overcoming hesitation

Reading time: 180 Seconds The three-second rule The longer you put something off, the harder it is to do it. Did you ever miss out on an opportunity because you were too slow off the mark? Or talk yourself out of doing something and then regret it later? Have you ever...

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2 simple rules for meeting new people

Reading time 5 minutes. George lost his wife Nancy to illness when he was 55. As the months passed he became lonely. Then he attended one of my talks and heard me give my two simple rules for meeting people: Entertain once a week without fail, and accept all...

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Making yourself memorable

Reading time: 7 minutes. What good is meeting someone for the first time, creating a favorable impression and establishing rapport if two days later they’ve utterly forgotten you? Advertisers pay fortunes to keep their products “top of mind,” job seekers want to...

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How will you know when you’ve got what you want?

Reading time 50 seconds. Close your eyes and create a “future memory.” Pick a specific and reasonable moment in time. What will it look like, sound like, feel like, smell like, and taste like? The raw language of the brain comes from the senses—pictures, sounds, and...

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Approachable or Authoritative?

Reading time 90 seconds These are the North and South Poles of first impressions. Building a professional identity to project a strong first impression must take these same boundaries into account. Somewhere between the two extremes of approachable and authoritative...

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Stepping stones to a good story

Reading time: 90 seconds Stories are to the human heart what food is to the body. Advertisers polish them, marketers spread them, lawyers bend them, and religions exalt them. We watch them unfold on the screen, read them in books, and when we can’t find one handy, we...

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Birds of a Feather

Reading time: 50 seconds - Imagine being able to know which sense somebody relies on most. When you find out, you can appeal to that sense above all others. The other person won't realize why, but they'll feel naturally drawn to you. It's natural - birds of a feather...

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Getting free information

Reading time: 90 seconds. It’s easy to get free information from a stranger. This doesn't mean trying to learn someone’s credit card number. What it means is learning the other person’s name, interests, personal situation and more. Most people are more than eager to...

Making small-talk

Making small-talk

Reading time: 90 seconds: Small talk is just casual chitchat about nothing in particular. Ask questions about what he or she likes to do in their spare time. Where are you from/going? Family? Fun?  Current affairs: the weather, the news, sports will do in a pinch. Or...

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Matched Opposites

Who will complete you? No matter what  you might  have  read or heard elsewhere, the truth is that exciting, loving,  lasting relationships are an artful  blend of  “like attracts like,” so  you  actually like,  respect, and  can  put up  with  each other; and  just...

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Real romance

Where would real love be without stories? Just look over your shoulder at the past. What do you see? Not a world of atoms and molecules but a world of stories. From ten thousand years ago to today. Just stories! Stories of adventures, conquests and love. Stories are...

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Being memorable

Reading time:90 seconds: What good  is meeting someone for the first time, creating a favorable impression and  establishing rapport if two weeks  later the  person has  forgotten you? Give other people a reason to remember you, and they  will. Ask yourself these...

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The girl next door?

Reading time: 70 seconds Peter Backus, a teaching fellow of economics at the University of Warwick, published his Why I Don't Have A Girlfriend theses after spending three years without a partner. The math wiz used the Drake Equation, a formula used by scientists to...

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The Phone Zone

Reading time: 90seconds + 30 When you’re on the phone, you may have a great connection, but you have to be sure that you’re making a great connection. There’s no body language for you to read. Your only clues to what your conversational partner is thinking or feeling...

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Take them with you.

Reading time: 90 seconds. It’s staggering how many people attend business parties at this time of year and forget to take their business cards. I attended a launch for a book on leadership last week. Eighteen people asked me for my card. When I asked for their card in...

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Engineering introductions

Reading time: 90 seconds. If a stranger across a crowded room catches your fancy, ask your host or a mutual friend or acquaintance to introduce you. But don't leave things to chance. Instead, prepare your own ten-second commercial ahead of time by telling your...